Adopting a war grave at the American cemetery or a name in one of the Walls of Missing Persons means that every adopter visits the adopted soldier several times a year. At this occasion he or she lays flowers and gives thought to the significance of his or her offer. One visit takes place at the annual Memorial Day on the last Sunday of May. Furthermore flowers are laid on the birthday and/or dying day of the adopted soldier. If possible, the adopter keeps in contact with the American next of kin. For them the knowledge that there is someone who takes care of the grave is a great consolation, as they often are not able to pay a visit. As all 10,023 American soldiers have been adopted at the moment, aspirant-adopters are put on a waiting list. The most important aspect of adoption is the commemoration in gratitude and at the same time the awareness of the vulnerability of our freedom and democracy. Only if we learn from the past, there will be hope for the future.